Love You Forever
From Teaching Children Philosophy, a Project of Thomas Wartenberg
Author: Robert Munsch
Publisher: Firefly
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[edit] Summary
Love You Forever is a story about a mother’s continual love for her son as he goes through the stages of adolescence to manhood. Every night his mother sings to him “I’ll love you forever, I’ll like you for always, as long as I’m living, my baby you’ll be”, while rocking him as he sleeps. As he grows, his mother recurrently shows her love for him despite his adolescent behavior which seems to be driving her crazy! Even after the boy has grown into a man his mother drives across town to hold him in her arms and sing to him. The mother eventually becomes too old and sick to carry on with this tradition. In turn, the man then drives across town, holds his mother in his arms and sings to her “I’ll love you forever, I’ll like you for always, as long as I’m living, my mommy you’ll be”. As the man returns home, he goes to his daughters’ room and passes on the tradition, holding her in his arms and singing the same song to her that his mother sang to him.
[edit] Guidelines for Philosophical Discussion
[edit] Love
- Love You Forever presents the unconditional love that parents are expected to have for their children despite the behavior of those children as they grow up. The love that a parent has for a child is an unrestricted love that never falters. In the book, the mother is stressed by the behavior of the son, but still continues to crawl into his room at night, hold him in her arms and sing to him. This parental love is often the first and most important love a person will ever experience. When developing future relationships a person is able to understand and reciprocate love to others because of the love that has first been introduced by their parents. As a person matures from adolescence to adulthood they begin to understand the importance of displaying affection and reciprocating love. Children who do not experience love have a hard time displaying and reciprocating love for another. When the mother becomes elderly and sick her son who is now an adult returns this love by tending and singing to her. A child who experiences love through a parental figure will be more likely to pass this on to their children. This reciprocation of love is important in allowing love to continue to exist. When the man becomes a father, he shows his love for his daughter by singing the same song his mother sang to him.
[edit] Happiness and Fulfillment
- For a person to be fulfilled in life they have to achieve happiness. Happiness is the ultimate means in itself; it is the one thing that people universally strive towards. Love above all holds the most intrinsic value and without love we cannot be fulfilled and achieve happiness. The ability of the father to display his affection to his mother and his daughter represent the happiness and fulfillment in his life.
[edit] Gender Stereotypes
- The original mother son relationship in the book follows the stereotypes set in place by society. Women are seen to take on a more nurturing role and men are seen to be less affectionate. This stereotype is then juxtaposed by the nurturing relationship of a father to his daughter. This role reversal demonstrates that affection is not something defined by a person’s gender. The love that the son has for his mother is not absent, while he grows, but is something he does not display as well when he is an adolescent. It is important to understand that gender should not define our ability to love and show affection. This is something particularly important to instill in young children.
[edit] The Circle Of Life
- A part from discussing the value of love and the intrinsic means of happiness, Love You Forever also delves into a deeper concept of reality, that being the circle of life, culminating in death. The story explores not only the young boy’s life but also the mothers and her journey through aging. It is understandable that many of the children reading this story will not recognize the fact that the mom did indeed pass on, and if they do it is likely that they will not identify exactly what that means. This is an important part of the story, one which should be discussed with the child to gain a more thorough understanding. It is important for them to realize that death is a part of the circle of life and that it is not something dark and something to be feared but rather, if happening in a timely fashion, something that one can embrace. We can help the child appreciate this more by examining the character of the mother. She lived a life of fulfillment and happiness, raising her son to be respectful and in turn a great father. She was able to pass on the greatest knowledge, that being how to love and this love was then reciprocated onto her. Her death is something to be celebrated because not only did she lead a long and happy life but it is through her that the circle of life was able to continue and grow in a respectful and loving way. Death is something that young children, in perhaps a more delicate form, need to be made aware of and Love You Forever is a perfect example of how this can be done.
- This book is enjoyed by many adults and children and it can raise a lot of emotion in readers. It can be used as a tool to address some very basic yet powerful concepts. Love You Forever describes the importance of love and the reciprocity of love and its need for fulfillment and happiness. Gender roles are addressed and it even brings about the topic of death and the life cycle. This book can be used as a tool to provoke some very important and essential questions to children. The questions are brought about to help children think about love in their life and what love really is and the reciprocity of love. It helps children to question the stereotypes that society holds about girls and boys. It even addresses the very serious topic of death and helps children to understand what it really means to die.
[edit] Questions
[edit] Love
- How do your parents show they love you?
- Why does the mother love the boy and what does the mother get in return?
- Why is a mother’s love selfless when it comes to their child?
- Do you think the boy is being selfish by not telling his mother he loves her?
- Can you be angry with someone and still love them?
- How do you show your parents you love them?
- Why did the mother always love him?
- Do you think the boy loved the mother, but just was too embarrassed to say?
- Why are we embarrassed to tell someone we love them?
- Why did the boy not show his love for his mother until he was older?
- Do you need to have a reason to love someone?
[edit] Gender Roles
- Do you think the story would be different if it was a father instead of a mother?
- Do you think the story would be different if it was a girl instead of boy?
- What do you notice about the ending of the book about the parent and child?
- Do you think the man is less affectionate to his daughter than his mother was to him?
- Do you think the daughter will have similar behavior that the man had while growing up?
- Is it okay for girls to say "I love you"?
- Is it okay for boys to say "I love you"?
[edit] Happiness and Fulfillment
- What makes you happy?
- Would you be happy if you were the mother?
- Do you need other people to be happy?
- Does telling someone you love them make you happy and does it make them happy?
- Does knowing that someone loves you make you happy?
[edit] Life and Death
- What is it that makes a fulfilled life?
- Why did the mother get sick at the end of the story? What happens next?
- What does it mean to pass on?
- What does it mean when someone says the “circle of life”?
